Thursday, July 17, 2014

Being a Mom is Tough: P31 OBS


Being a mom is tough...
to me that may be the understatement of a life time.


I always knew I wanted to be a mom.
Truth be told I always wanted to be a boy mom.
6 boys to be exact...yes you read that right.
Remember telling my high school family life class that I wanted 6 kids...
all boys.  

We we are about a 1/3 of the way there...
honestly I don't know what God's plans are for the future 
(I really wish I could peak at his plan book)

We aren't opposed to more children.. but only he knows the plans he has for us.

Why do I find being a mom is tough?

1. You have to stick to your guns...
2. Lack of sleep...
3. Because I said so...

For me the hardest part of being a mom is boundaries.
I remember being that person in the store saying,
"My kid will never....(insert whatever undesirable behavior you would like)."
yeah I promise we have knocked off all of those items...
probably in one shopping trip.

Don't get me wrong we have rules in our family,
but I'm the slack one...
I'm not strict (ask my former students) and I'm not the enforcer...Daddy is :)

I have learned especially with my oldest that
he needs and wants clear expectations,
but just because of that doesn't mean that he will happily go along with them.

I have to be consistent
 not only in discipline, 
but also in our schedule, 
and my expectations.

I have also learned that as a mom,
I NEED way more sleep than I get.
See pre-mom I didn't need sleep...
I was great on 4 hrs...
could it be because that was 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep?
I'm sure that is the reason.

I can't tell you the last time I slept uninterrupted for more than 2 hours at a time.

And that leads me to the last on my list...Because I said so...
you see when I am not rested...I get cranky...
it's a family trait...everyone in my house is cranky without enough sleep.

When I get cranky I lose my patience,
I become short tempered,
and sharped tongued.  

I don't take time to discuss happenings with my boys,
I rush to judgement and punishment,
and more times than I care to admit utter that phrase,
"Because I said so..."

In those times,
I have caught myself crying out to God,
turning to a tear stained Bible,
searching for the answer.

And oh can he find the answer...
I have been humbled and brought to my knees more in parenting than any other part of my life.
Parenting has taught me how much I need God in my life.  
But even as tough as being a mom is...
I wouldn't trade it for the world.
It has been one of the greatest joys in my life.

One more thing makes being a mom tough...
knowing that God has entrusted the Farmer & me
with raising these two future men...
When the weight of that sinks in I sometimes feel like a lost ship...

again that's when I turn to him,
for guidance,
patience,
and wisdom. 

If you feel the same way, maybe you would be interested in joining me and many others doing an online Bible study over at Proverbs 31 Ministries.  We are doing the book "Am I Messing Up My Kids?"  It's not to late to join!  

If you are visiting from the P31 blog hop leave me a comment and let me know what you find tough about being a mom!

Until we meet again....

Caci